Do you sit reading fairy tales to your children, or remember childhood, tales of princesses, knights and happy ever afters?

Life really is like a fairy tale - we just forget to see it that way sometimes.  How?  Well let’s take that story of the Princess and her ‘evil’ stepmother and how the Princess was banished to the forest to be executed.

So the Princess’s life started off happily, playing in the castle without a care in the world, surrounded by people she loved, feeling safe and secure.

Life events, such as the loss of her mother, meant her life was turned upside down. Not only losing someone she dearly loved but also feeling like an outsider in her own place of safety.

Fast forward a few years and jealousy from her stepmother meant the princess was outcast from the castle.

Did this make the Princess bitter and angry? No. She adapted to her new role, not judging others (like the Dwarves) for their size, attitudes or life choices.

Eventually she did meet her Princess Charming just by being herself.

If we look back and think about most fairy tales we only remember the good parts. The Princess, the friendships she made. But if you look at almost any fairy tale, the main character had to overcome a lot of adversity to get there.

Isn’t it about time you took control of your own fairy tale? Not blaming others for the last chapter but realising you really can make your fairy tale have its own happy ending?

If you need help writing that next chapter in your book, why not consider hypnotherapy? Think of hypnotherapy as a perfect pair of reading glasses that helps you to see the pages for what they really are, just a story where you really do have control of having that…

                          ‘Happy ever after’.

Scientist says we are only born with a fear of loud noises and a fear of falling. All other fears are learnt behaviours.  

In my work as a hypnotherapist, I often work with individuals who have fears through a learnt behaviour. The trigger doesn’t always have to be a physical experience. An example of this is the client that comes to me with the ‘What if’ or ‘I can’t because’ or the parent saying to the child ‘this happened to my friend’. The seed is then sown.

With it being bonfire night there were a lot of loud fireworks going off. I discovered that my own year old dog had a fear of them. I do not know how, as I have only had her eight months.

Initially on the first night, I think we probably heightened her fear by making a lot of fuss. Basically praising and therefore heightening her negative awareness of the noises.

So what did I do?  I encouraged her to relax in the situation. No I didn’t give her hypnotherapy. We used a plug in diffuser and a jacket called a thunder jacket (reminded me of the hug in mug advert).

When working with a client I find the art of relaxation gets bypassed and the ‘fight or flight’ controlled by our brains has kicked in before it actually needs to. There must be a lot of prehistoric mammals (otherwise known as memories) out there chasing us.

Working with my clients I know in heart that I cannot undo the past. What I work with them on is making ‘the now’ a moment they can control.  A client recently came to me for a fear of loud noises, bad weather etc. I recently received a text from them telling me they’d heard a clap of thunder and jumped like any of us would, but that was all and had stayed perfectly calm after.  

I recently watched a fantastic video on UPWorthy about Happiness and being in the moment.  Make 10 mins to watch it, it’s an amazing video.  I love the little girl telling the story about standing at a door and then using her imagination to describe what may behind.  

How about closing your eyes right now and imagining opening that door. What colour door is it? s it a cool metal handle or just one you push open?  I wonder where you’ve gone to?  Whilst you're there really experience what’s behind it.  If it’s outside feel the touch of nature. Wind, sun, water.  If you’re in a room look around at the old photos, your favourite comfy chair. Who knows what’s in that room?  Even allow your mind to subconsciously pick up and touch objects.  

Well done you just experienced self hypnosis.

Take 10 mins after reading this to watch this great little YouTube video.  I think you’ll enjoy it. http://www.upworthy.com/clear-your-next-10-minutes-because-this-video-could-change-how-happy-you-are-with-your-entire-week.

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How important do you think water is?

We  can live without food for more than a month, but did you know no one can stay alive for more than about a week without water. I think that tells you just how important it is. All living things need water for their bodies to function. When you take in food, water helps to dissolve it and, along with certain chemicals in your body, it turns this food into energy for you to grow. These chemicals can work only in water. Water carried waste material out of your body as well.

We lose water as you breathe and sweat.  According to scientific research we are made up of around 65% water.

How many times have you suddenly realised how thirsty you are, this is one of our bodies line of defences in warning up to drink.  Drinking a glass of water 20 mins before your dinner can help us to eat less and feel fuller.  

Studies have found that some teas may help with cancer, heart disease, and diabetes; encourage weight loss; lower cholesterol; and bring about mental alertness.

What about teas, coffee and juices etc.  I am lucky enough to have an amazing tea room called ‘fork to feast’ situated in Miss Mabel's Magnificent Emporium in Burgess Hill. You can visit their website at http://www.forktofeast.co.uk/index.php or follow them on twitter @forktofeast.  Great little tea room to catch up with friends whilst refreshing your body.  What more of an excuse do you need?
Why not book yourself in to 'a weight off your mind' interactive evening seminar being held on 24th September at the Chequer Mead in East Grinstead. Tickets will be available from the Chequer Mead Box office Box Office: 01342 302000 E-mail: tickets@chequermead.org.uk or by contacting me directly.

If you would like to know more about healthy eating and how changing your mind about food can help you lose weight. Drop me a email becky@beckywells.com or give me a call on 07801 941949

So grab your H20, take a sip, remember that without re-hydrating yourself regularly your body will suffer.  I’m off to grab myself a drink, tomorrow I’ll be looking into ‘Pick your own’ farms.

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