We all hate bullying but how often do you realise that you bully yourself?
Have you ever been asked to do something and that little inner voice says you’re not good enough? I have.
For years I told myself I couldn’t be as good as all the others in my profession. I tried to change myself into them like a chameleon and in the process, I was the victim of bullying too. In my first job, when I was 16 years old, a manager bullied me and I didn’t stand up to him. It made me to become even quieter than I was. It caused me to never get promotion. The thought of three interviewers staring at me terrified me. Not a surprise really that I never got promotion, even though I was amazing at my job.
So how can we learn to overcome those bullies including the ones within?
Now I have set those bullies free, I have no intention of inviting them back in. I know it’s a journey and along the way they’ll try to get in through any slight crack in the door but what I do know is...
... I am me and love me for being me, I can politely close that door and watch the bullies walk away.
The next blog is all about C for confidence.
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My page on addictions
I’m not an addict, some might say. But most of us at some point in our lives become addicted to something. How many times do you flick open your Facebook to check for a comment or see what your friends are doing?
Addiction includes not only those key addictions from the past - drugs, alcohol or smoking. It comes in many disguises now, sneaking inside and taking hold of those usually organised thoughts.
Let’s look at a few of the modern day addictions we face.
When clients come to see me for addiction, I encourage them to look at all the aspects of their life they already have control over. It may be family life, work, who knows. I take the skills they use to manage these life events and encourage their subconscious to do exactly the same with their addiction.
You will longer be dictated to by a potentially deadly habit or addiction.
Here is Sarah from Brighton’s story:
Sarah worked in the health industry and already had a personal trainer to help with her fitness levels. She found the only thing she still couldn’t control was her chocolate addiction and sugar craving, so we looked at her daily routine.
She didn’t have breakfast but had a protein shake instead. In this way she thought she had no sugar except for her morning tea! But look at the back of those packets. They may not have sugar listed but most will have sweeteners. And sweeteners help train the brain to like sweetness.
She’d cut out all carbs because that’s what she’d been advised to do. But complex carbohydrates help power our bodies throughout the day by slowly releasing their energy.
Drinking sufficient water was also a hit or miss affair with her.
So her body was being woken up with a sugar fix and then deprived of a fuel source to maintain itself and deprived of a regular fluid intake to wash the toxins away.
Over time she had developed a sugar addiction, which depleted her energy levels and put her at risk of diabetes, despite her fitness training.
What did we do?
In just one session we took hold of that sugar demon and sent it on its way, encouraging positive food habits using hypnosis. Sarah now starts the day with breakfast. She has healthy snacks already prepared to eat during the day and is amazed how much better she feels through drinking more water.
We reinforced the session with a follow up session but now sugar has lost its control over her daily routines and she has more energy now than before.
Fuel yourself for life not just for a quick fix.
Becky lives in West Sussex, UK and is a Therapist using hypnosis, Psy-TaP, Kinetic Shift and Mindscaping. Please feel free to explore the website to learn more about her.