 Many people spend a lifetime falling in and out of bad relationships. Fearing being alone and hoping that happiness can be found in the arms of a partner. The truth is that happiness comes from within, and without the ability to love yourself you will find it very difficult to accept love or even give love. This month we are going to tackle the tricky business of love.
We are going to start by looking at our relationship with ourselves. How do we view ourselves? What perception do we give out to the world? Could we work harder at loving ourselves? In this manic 24/7 world we live in and with the rise of social media, it has become the norm to give out a positive perception to the rest of the world. How many times do you edit a photo before posting it to your wall? Do you spend time looking at the photos of friends and peers and wishing you too could be as happy or as perfect. Do you flip through the glossy magazines and envy the glamorous celebs and then beat yourself up because you don’t look that way? It’s very common and a lot more people than you think do it. However it’s time to break the cycle. If you must compare yourself to anyone don’t make a comparison with an airbrushed picture. Find somebody whose attitude to life is inspiring. True beauty shines through from within when you are happy. You give off a natural glow, a charm that people are attracted to. I would like you to try an exercise, beginning with looking at yourself in the mirror and finding three things that you like about yourself and say it out loud. ‘I have nice eyes’ or ‘my hair is really glossy’. Try looking again and remind yourself out loud what personality traits you have that are good. Saying these things out loud re-enforces your positive self-image. We all like to hear it and hearing it from yourself is just as good and can be even more meaningful. For more information about affirmations and how they can help you go to my web page and see my blogs. Becky For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK
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 How many times have you sat in a meeting at the office and, in your mind, been on that last beach holiday? Or walking around a local supermarket, remembering the last time you picked up that certain food and reminiscing about a night you had with friends or family.
When people ask me to describe how hypnotherapy feels, I usually describe a daydream-like state as one of my comparisons. In a deeply relaxed state, the mind can be allowed to focus on making sense of everything that is going on around us. Kids are great daydreamers. I am sure most of you remember playground games, where you lived in a castle or were being chased by a dragon. I am not saying you have to go back to that daydream childlike state, but wouldn’t it be great to be able to take yourself away from it all, for a short period of time, to sort out what’s going on in the subconscious mind. You can with hypnotherapy. Think of it like a giving yourself a bit of ‘ME’ time. Pure self indulgence. Why not pop along to my show at the Chequer Mead on the 24th of September where I’ll be talking about taking ‘A Weight off your Mind’ or come and see me at the Sussex Women’s show on the 27th and 28th of September. If you would like to know more about healthy eating and how changing your mind about food can help you lose weight. Drop me a email becky@beckywells.com or give me a call on 07801 941949 For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK  When you first hear the word ‘relationship’ you may automatically think I am talking about a lover, a partner or spouse. Relationships are more than this. We have relationships with all those around us, friends, family, the shopkeeper from the local shop that hands you your newspaper each day, and many others. If I asked you to create a circle with ten layers in it, each one numbered by how important you are compared to other people, I wonder where you would place yourself in comparison to them? Let me give you an example. You have been in a relationship for many years, so you would place yourself on the same circle as your partner. In a social situation you feel inferior to the opposite sex, reluctant to join in conversations, worried that everyone will laugh at some incorrect comment you may make. How about allowing hypnotherapy to help with gaining a whole new perspective on your social status? Some of the areas I have worked on with individuals are: Feeling an equal partner in a relationship Helping you to appreciate your own position in society. Everyone is important, no matter what or who they are. Helping you to open up, allowing other near them for future relationships, whether this is for friendship or a sexual relationship So let’s start today building that positive relationship you have with YOU first right now. Book in for my ‘A Weight of your Mind’ interactive weight loss seminar at the Chequer Mead Arts Centre in East Grinstead on the 24th of September. I’m giving a free group weight loss hypnotherapy session at the end of the event. http://www.beckywells.com/a-weight-off-your-mind-at-chequer-mead.html Or come and visit me at the Sussex Women’s Show, Brighton Racecourse on the 27th to 28th September. I will also be giving two 20 minute talks at this show. For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK   How many times have you watched those documentaries about kite surfers, scuba divers and wished you could do that? What’s stopping you from having a go? I know money can be a major factor, but is it your confidence stopping you take that leap? Someone once described their lack of confidence to me as a ‘brick wall’. They could hear what was going on over the other side of the wall but it was just a couple of layers of bricks too high to see over. So what I did, using hypnotherapy techniques, was to help them take off one layer of bricks at a time until they could climb over it. Then we rebuilt it, leaving those negative thoughts safely behind the wall as past memories. In this area we are extremely lucky in this area to have a company based in Brighton that specialises in amazing sports such as kitesurfing and scuba diving called http://www.planetkitesurfholidays.com.What this company does is tailor an adventure holiday for you. So if you want to kitesurf in the best locations around the world, they will arrange it all for you, from the flights to trips to making sure the less adventurous people in your group are catered for. They also have first hand experience of the locations which, as you know, is invaluable and a real time saver. So how about breaking down the metaphorical wall in front of you, taking a leap into the deep or learning how to fly without wings? So if you’d like a hand taking down some of those layers of bricks, why not give me a call? Book in for my ‘A Weight of your Mind’ interactive weight loss seminar at the Chequer Mead Arts Centre in East Grinstead on the 24th of September. I’m giving a free group weight loss hypnotherapy session at the end of the event. http://www.beckywells.com/a-weight-off-your-mind-at-chequer-mead.html Or come and visit me at the Sussex Women’s Show, Brighton Racecourse on the 27th to 28th September. I will also be giving two 20 minute talks at this show. For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK   
 Some people in our lives encourage us to go out and explore. Others, though, may discourage us and hold us back from our dreams and goals.
Or sometimes the doubting part of our mind takes over and prevents the true explorer within us from flourishing. Let me give you an example... You really want to lose weight but the doubting part of your mind says ‘I tried it before and I couldn’t keep it up’. Or maybe articles in the news and press are bombarding you, telling you that you can lose weight with this tablet or that diet. Well how about creating your own plan? How can YOU do that? I can help you take back control of the doubting part of you that kicks in every time you hit a bad patch on a diet or fitness regime. Occasionally you will fancy that cream cake when you’re on a diet. Don’t punish yourself for it, just allow your mind to realise it’s allowed an occasional treat. Think of your body and mind as an empty cupboard or maybe a cupboard with some out-of-date tins. What would you put back in that cupboard to restock for a healthy body and mind? Maybe an exercise tin or two, some healthy food tins and even the odd treat tin for one of those bad days that we all have occasionally. Hypnotherapy may be another one of those tins. Hypnotherapy allows your subconscious mind to work at it best. I have worked with many clients over the years, allowing them to throw out some of those unwanted out-of-date tins and replace them with fresh, new, motivational tins. With me you not only get a valuable hypnotherapy tin, you have the added bonus of a sports therapist tin too! So if you’d like a hand with your tin cupboard why not give me a call? Book in for my ‘A Weight of your Mind’ interactive seminar at the Chequer Mead Arts Centre in East Grinstead on the 24th of September. http://www.beckywells.com/a-weight-off-your-mind-at-chequer-mead.html Or come and visit me at the Sussex Women’s Show, Brighton Racecourse on the 27th to 28th September. I will also be give two 20 minute talks at this show. For more information please sign up to my mailing list at http://www.beckywells.com/sign-up-for-my-newsletter.html The latest newsletter is here http://eepurl.com/Ds0TL I look forward to meeting you at the shows. Becky www.beckywells.com becky@beckywells.com . The school holidays have only just begun and the kids are already running out of exciting things to do! Now some of you may know I was brought up in a small town called Crawley. My youth was spent playing in the local woods; climbing trees, playing hide and seek and generally enjoying myself without the aid of a computer console. What do I think this helped with as an adult? Well the greatest dreams were created in those times about my future. That local forest became my Narnia. As I stepped into the entrance of the park nothing else really mattered. We’d find trees to swing from and like elves from the forest other children would join in with the fun and games. We never thought about being bored, we didn’t have time. We were busy chasing away the fire breathing dragons or hiding from the invisible witch that lived down the black alley. Children these days are not always allowed to set their imagination free. As a hypnotherapist the daydream is a powerful tool. During a hypnotherapy session a client is encouraged into a relaxed daydream type state. Whilst relaxed the therapist encourages them to change how they view certain feelings or events in their life to a more positive way. So if you’re off with your kids this school holiday, why not relive your childhood? Show your kids how a forest such as Tilgate Park (http://www.crawley.gov.uk/pw/Leisure_and_Culture/Tilgate_Park/index.htm) in Crawley can be the place where their character is formed and their sense of independence is encouraged. And if you slay a few of your own dragons whilst you’re there, even better. For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK  How fresh can your vegetables be? How about freshly picked or pulled from the ground? Just a couple of miles down the road from where I live is a place called Tulley’s Farm. Now this place always reminds me of an Aladdin’s cave. With things you didn’t even know you needed, until you got there, including zombies at their Halloween spooktacular! They have just opened their PYO (pick your own) fields for people to pick strawberries and Raspberries. Imagine a fresh fruit salad picked from the field, washed and straight on your plate a few hours later. So what is the advantage of having fruit fresh from the branches? As soon as fruit is picked it starts to break down naturally. Eating it within a few hours means you get the most benefit from its essential vitamins and other nutritional benefits. A slice of raw fruit such as pineapple contains over 130% of your recommended daily allowance of vitamin C. Also important they can help to ward off those sweet tooth cravings. Fruit contains a natural sugar which shouldn’t be eaten in large quantities but is a great substitute for raw sugar. Eating fruits with skins on also helps our body build more energy as we eat, because of the need to break down the fibre of their outer skins. So next time you pick up an apple or other such fruit, why not try locally to source them? You’ll know exactly where they’ve come from and I’m pretty sure they’ll taste a lot fresher. If you’re lucky enough to be in West Sussex pop down to Tulley’s Farm. For details visit their website at http://www.tulleysfarm.com/pick-your-own-latest-news or visit their twitter @Tulleys_farm. What local farm shops do you have in your area? Share them with us and let’s boost local. Why not book yourself into 'a weight off your mind' interactive evening seminar being held on 24th September at the Chequer Mead in East Grinstead. Tickets will be available from the Chequer Mead Box Office: 01342 302000 E-mail: tickets@chequermead.org.uk or by contacting me directly. If you would like to know more about healthy eating and how changing your mind about food can help you lose weight, drop me a email at becky@beckywells.com or give me a call on 07801 941949 For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK  How important do you think water is? We can live without food for more than a month, but did you know no one can stay alive for more than about a week without water. I think that tells you just how important it is. All living things need water for their bodies to function. When you take in food, water helps to dissolve it and, along with certain chemicals in your body, it turns this food into energy for you to grow. These chemicals can work only in water. Water carried waste material out of your body as well. We lose water as you breathe and sweat. According to scientific research we are made up of around 65% water. How many times have you suddenly realised how thirsty you are, this is one of our bodies line of defences in warning up to drink. Drinking a glass of water 20 mins before your dinner can help us to eat less and feel fuller. Studies have found that some teas may help with cancer, heart disease, and diabetes; encourage weight loss; lower cholesterol; and bring about mental alertness. What about teas, coffee and juices etc. I am lucky enough to have an amazing tea room called ‘fork to feast’ situated in Miss Mabel's Magnificent Emporium in Burgess Hill. You can visit their website at http://www.forktofeast.co.uk/index.php or follow them on twitter @forktofeast. Great little tea room to catch up with friends whilst refreshing your body. What more of an excuse do you need? Why not book yourself in to 'a weight off your mind' interactive evening seminar being held on 24th September at the Chequer Mead in East Grinstead. Tickets will be available from the Chequer Mead Box office Box Office: 01342 302000 E-mail: tickets@chequermead.org.uk or by contacting me directly. If you would like to know more about healthy eating and how changing your mind about food can help you lose weight. Drop me a email becky@beckywells.com or give me a call on 07801 941949 So grab your H20, take a sip, remember that without re-hydrating yourself regularly your body will suffer. I’m off to grab myself a drink, tomorrow I’ll be looking into ‘Pick your own’ farms. For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK   Tuna fresh from Veasey & Sons. I wonder how many of you have fish each and every week? Do you buy it from the supermarket or fresh off the boat from the sea? Last week I was visiting Forest Row and stumbled across Veasey and Sons fishmongers http://www.veaseyandsons.webs.com. Full of fish caught fresh off the coast of Eastbourne in the morning. So I decided to try the tuna steak, and I must say I wasn’t disappointed. The fish was so fresh I could have imagined I’d just pulled it out of the ocean. It was probably the tenderest tuna I have ever tasted. I do know that tuna is not from the UK but I was fortunate enough to see it freshly caught when in Mauritius earlier in the year. They were Sussex Food and Drink award winners for 2012/13, so I think that tells you just how great their food is. I’ll be going back for more. So why is fish good for you? It contains something called Omega-3 fatty acids, which help in lowering blood pressure, reduce blood clotting, boost immunity and improve arthritis symptoms. They are currently researching if it improves children’s learning ability . Eating one to two servings a week of fish, particularly fish that's rich in omega-3 fatty acids, appears to reduce the risk of heart disease, particularly sudden cardiac death. Fatty fish, such as salmon, herring and maybe to a lesser extent tuna, contain the higher level of omega-3 fatty acids and therefore probably offer the most benefit, but many types of seafood contain small amounts of Omega-3 fatty acids. At this rate I might even have to make it a Salmon Saturday. So why not pull up your anchor and set sail for Veasey and Sons in Forest Row. I am pretty sure you won’t be disappointed with your catch. Why not book yourself in to 'a weight off your mind' interactive evening seminar being held on 24th September at the Chequer Mead in East Grinstead. Tickets will be available from the Chequer Mead Box office Box Office: 01342 302000 E-mail: tickets@chequermead.org.uk or by contacting me directly. If you would like to know more about healthy eating and how changing your mind about food can help you lose weight. Drop me a email becky@beckywells.com or give me a call on 07801 941949. For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK  Veasey & Sons can be found in Horsham and Forest Row. After great success with weight loss hypnotherapy, I have decided to extend the services I offer to include gastric band hypnotherapy. I have been given a script by a hypnotherapist who has had great success with this in his 20 years of working in the industry. I look forward to extending my client base even further with this new method. Why try hypnotherapy gastric band therapy? Read about the risks of an increased weight at the hypnotherapy directories website here and the answer will be clear to you... For your future health. To read more about gastric band hypnotherapy follow this link http://www.hypnotherapy-directory.org.uk/articles/gastric-band.html What have you got to lose? Potentially a weight off your mind. Becky 07801 941949 becky@beckywells.com For more information CLICK For bookings CLICK  |
AuthorBecky lives in West Sussex, UK and is a Therapist using hypnosis, Psy-TaP, Kinetic Shift and Mindscaping. Please feel free to explore the website to learn more about her. Archives
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