How would you describe yourself if you had to describe yourself as a menu? If you had to set your life out as a menu, I wonder which dishes you would include? For my starter, I would choose a prawn cocktail. My foundations and beliefs are based on values from the past. So a little bit of 70’s / 80’s nostalgia describes my core beliefs. For my mains, I would have to describe myself as a fillet steak with handmade chips and fresh seasonal vegetables. Full of energy, no hidden surprises, what you see is what you get. Finally me as a dessert? Well I would have to say profiteroles. Protective shell on the outside, sweet and cheeky filling on the inside and something you can feel you could always go back to again and again. Because it feels like your best friend. What would your menu consist of, is there a menu you can see but just can’t find the ingredients? Why not ask me, I may be able to help turn your menu in to a Michelin star review for you. Becky www.Beckywells.com 07801 941949 becky@beckywells.com
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A lot of us keep our bodies healthy by going to the gym, do you ever consider doing the same for your mind? When I ask my Nan whose 3 years short of becoming a Centenarian what the secret of life is, she usually just smiles and says she’s lived healthily and kept active in ways she found enjoyable. She hasn’t indulged in any self-destructive habits, although she used to have the odd drink, and still enjoys a healthy mix of whole foods. She accepts change and although picking up new technology is beyond her, she marvels at all around her that use it. She embraces life and it embraces her back. Although, like most people, she still feels like she has the mind of a much younger person, the muscles occasionally tell her they’ve had 97 years use, normally when she’s been chopping down trees or moving furniture. So why not get your mind fit as well as those muscles. Come and have a chat with me let’s see if we can get your positive mind active and into full flow. Becky www.beckyWells.com / www.payitforwarduk.net 07801 941949 becky@beckywells.com I like to think of my change in career from employee to being my own boss, like the journey of a mighty oak tree. Last year, in June, I planted an acorn into the universe when I set up Becky Wells Limited. Over the past six months I have been feeding it and nurturing it, helping it to start from a strong foundation. In the last couple of months I have really started to see the roots start to stretch out, testing unknown grounds, some never making it further than a few yards, others continually expanding. Each root, even if it doesn’t survive, provides feedback for me on routes to avoid or to take extra care of in the future. Now that the roots have firmly taken hold in the ground, I look forward to watching this tree grow into a mighty oak. As it grows it will provide shelter and energy for others and that, to me, is just as important as having something that can last for many years to come. So if you want to spin a web on my tree to give yourself a rest, or just climb aboard for help looking into your future from my top branches, then feel free to grab a branch and enjoy the view with me. Becky www.beckywells.com / www.payitforwarduk.net 07801 941949 Becky@beckywells.com “Let me look upward into the branches of the flowering oak and know that it grew great and strong because it grew slowly and well.” I’m sure with all this wintery weather a lot of you will be stripping off the layers of clothing you’ve been carrying around all day? I like to think of hypnotherapy as stripping away the layers of habits, learnt behaviours and other issues that have built up over time, years maybe in some of the cases I’ve seen. It’s almost like we keep placing another jumper on top of the one we’re wearing. So what do I mean? Well the best way to allow you to see what I mean is to take you through a case study. So let’s take stopping smoking as an example. The base layer of smoking to me is a deep-seated need from past behaviours. Some may have started to smoke at school or watched parents or relatives do the same. It has become that comfort layer close to our body we need (or think we need). Next comes the mid layer that keeps you warm, the fleece layer. This to me is like the comfort level, the one that makes you feel better. Getting out of an uncomfortable situation by ‘going for a cigarette’. Finally comes the insulation layer, the outer layer. This is just like you wearing a certain jacket if you know it’s going to get cold. You build up the behaviour of having a cigarette at certain points on a journey or at certain times of day. So how will I help to you to change the outfit you wear? I will use hypnotherapy with a perfect mix of my other skills to adjust each layer to a perfect outfit for you. I’ll help take those old and comfy base layers off and let your subconscious pick the one that’s the perfect fit for you. I’ll maybe show how the old one probably had a few holes in you hadn’t even spotted. Next, with a mix of hypnotherapy with counselling (or talking) as I prefer to know it, I will help you realise that the comfy layer was not the best fit and work with you to find a fit you would be proud to show off. This may be working on your self-esteem or self-confidence to deal with the situations that drove you to smoke. Finally we will deal with the outer layer. This uses my skills as hypnotherapist but also my previous training in health and sports therapy, helping you to changing the way you live your day-to-day life. So with smoking it may be just asking you to change a route you take to work, as many smokers I’ve talked to smoke at particular points on their journeys. Each layer is just as important as the next to deal with. And look at the rewards and health risks. Smoking 15-20 cigarettes apparently costs around £2500 per year, which could be an amazing holiday fund. Have you ever looked into what’s inside cigarettes to make them so addictive? I challenge you to search on the Internet and see if you would eat the raw ingredients if they were put in front of you and roll them up and smoke them. I am guessing not, I was surprised what was in them, not that nice! If you want to give up and stop sending your wages up in smoke, let me help YOU find that new non-smoking outfit. Becky www.beckywells.com / www.payitforward.net 07801 941949 becky@beckywells.com Do you get up in the morning and look forward to the day ahead or do you get up and dread what the day is going to bring? I used to be one of those people who did exactly that. I’d get up in the morning, head up to the city, arrive an hour and a half later and walk in a zombie like fashion to my desk. Sit there entering data and wondering how everyone had been doing the same thing for years. So I did something about it, I retrained. I was also fairly shy, which people that know me now may not believe. So not only did I have to retrain my skills but also I had to retrain me. I had to overcome a fear of standing up and being heard, which to me was something I thought I’d never have the courage to do. I used various therapies including hypnotherapy, to build up my self-confidence, self-belief and self-esteem. I guess in psychological terms they would probably describe me as an introvert with an extrovert shell. I will always have that piece of my past in my mind, the shy individual who wouldn’t say ‘boo to a goose’ as they say (still not keen on geese) but I use this to boost how far I’ve come. I look in the mirror and see that shy person sitting there in the past and show them just how far they’ve come and watch them take a deep breath and say “I can go anywhere I want, can’t I, I just need to believe in me”. So find that mirror, look at how much that person looking back has achieved. If you want to achieve even more or need help with a specific issue, give me a call and enjoy the snow - if it appears tomorrow. Go build snowmen, make a snow angel and have a snowball fight with family or friends. Becky (chief snowball builder) www.BeckyWells.com / www.payitforwarduk.net becky@beckywells.com 07801 941949 How many times have you enjoyed a meal so much that you finished your plate even though you were full up. An uncomfortable feeling creeps up on you and you still have to take that one extra mouthful. We’ve all done it. I did it tonight. I’m feeling like a Buddha-shaped girl. Many people have a compulsion to over eat. It’s not something they can help. Actually in most cases it’s just a habit that has become out of control due to any number of reasons. Maybe that’s you. So if I asked you what caused your excessive eating you might say “I do it when I am upset”, “It started when I retired”, “When I lost my job” or another life changing and upsetting event. Hypnotherapy allows you to access your own subconscious mind where your bad habits and your bad life experiences are stored. Working with your hypnotherapist these issues are examined and demystified. In a safe environment, you are taught to relax and allow your subconscious mind to open up and make a positive effect on your future behavior around food. So put down that knife and fork, take a few deep breaths and give me a call. Hypnotherapy is an ancient, safe and effective tool that helps you use the power of your subconscious mind to enhance your conscious daily life. It can soothe fears, mend uncomfortable thoughts and bring you closer to the person you want to be and CAN be. Becky www.BeckyWells.com 07801 941949 becky@beckywells.com Do you have a special person in your life? Are you already preparing for next month’s special day? I imagine the shops are already stocked full of the cards! According to statistics the number of people getting married for the first time in their 40s has double in the first few years. Are we all to busy enjoying life? I’m heading at a rapid speed towards that milestone, I’m going to make the most of my 38/39th year before the BIG 40 bites me on the bum next year. I was sitting drink coffee this morning at my favourite coffee shop haunt in East Grinstead quietly reading my magazine. The hustle and bustle of people coming and going is fascinating to me. Coffee shops like this one are hubs. You have such an amazing mix of people passing through even in the hour I’d been sitting there. You have the family who start their day with a coffee before heading off to do battle with the shops. The young mums meeting up to share there stories about what’s been going and also more importantly a time for them to share problems with a friendly ear. The businessmen and women who pop in for a quick shot of coffee to boost them before a day of marketing, selling or what ever business they are involved in. There is always a warm welcoming feeling and the owner always makes you feel welcome. I have to say I do have to urge to have a go in the Play area some days! Are you a grab and go type of person, or do you sit and put the world to rights over you soy cappuccino or latte? You’ll never feel lonely in this coffee shop. You never know you might just start up a conversation with Mr or Miss Right if you’re single! Grab a coffee, a tea or a hot chocolate. It’s for me something that starts my week off on the right foot before the real fun begins. You never know you might just bump into me! If you’re not confident enough to just walk into a coffee shop, why not contact me and see how I can help build your self esteem up! Becky 07801 941949 www.BeckyWells.com / www.payitforwarduk.net Becky@beckywells.com "Black as the devil, hot as hell, pure as an angel, sweet as love." Seven days have already passed of this New Year. How many of you have already been tempted by one of the seven deadly sins? Pride has been called the sin from which all the others arise. Pride may also be known as Vanity. Were you offered help but your pride stopped you accepting it? Hypnotherapy for pride may help develop a personal pride that is needed in building up self-image, self-confidence and the ability to allow others to help whilst still feeling in control. Envy is the desire for others' traits, status, abilities, or situation. Have you watched other people and been envious of all that they are doing? Do you forget all the amazing stuff that you actually achieved yourself? Again with hypnotherapy for envy, it may be that one of the sessions is to do with self-esteem, allowing the individual’s subconscious mind to realise all the things it already has. Gluttony is a desire to consume more than one requires. Do you eat just because it’s in front of you, feel full and carry on eating? There are many ways of working with food issues using hypnotherapy. We look at past events which have lead to the food issues, to some of my clients favorite ones, avoiding sweet stuff completely. Lust is an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body. Again there are many ways hypnotherapy may help with all sexual issues such as teaching relaxation techniques to preventing over excitement. Anger also known as Wrath. Hypnotherapy can be used in many situations, from teaching someone how to stay in control using relaxation techniques. A good example of this is road rage, being able to control your temper instead of getting angry at another driver or pedestrian. Greed is the desire for material wealth or gain, ignoring the realm of spiritual gain. Are you always trying to gain that extra dollar no matter what the consequences? Hypnotherapy can help you to learn to slow down and allows others to gain. Have you ever helped someone and later found out they will help you in the future more than you can ever imagine That older person in the street, might just be the Mother or Father of someone who will change your life because you did a good deed with no material gain. Again it may be using hypnotherapy to help you gain the confidence to make that connection. Sloth or extreme laziness is the avoidance of physical or spiritual work. If you lack confidence this can come across as laziness or maybe fear of the unknown. Hypnotherapy may help with fear, anxiety, and confidence issues. Hypnotherapy is used for so many reasons, it really isn’t some form of medieval magic. It just helps the conscious mind to relax and allow the amazing subconscious mind to work at its best. Why not give me a call to book that first session. I am currently based in Harley Street London and Sussex. Let’s start to break down those deadly sins. Becky 07801 941949 becky@beckywells.com www.BeckyWells.com So they say we can link ourselves to everyone in the world by a maximum of six degrees of separation? Well let’s try it. How can I be linked to Tom Cruise? I have done some work as Associate Personal Trainer for Matt Roberts. Matt Roberts has trained Mel C, Mel C is friends and part of the same girl group as Victoria Beckham. Victoria Beckham is married to David Beckham who is good friends with Tom Cruise. Well would have thought it he never calls or phones when we are linked so closely (laughs out loud) It just shows you also what a small world it really is and how friendship can be shared all around the world without a second thought. Do you ever take the time to sit and talk to your friends or are you someone who unloads everything on them? Some people lack the confidence to tell their story, why not allow the quietest person in the group to lead the conversation one day. You may be surprised at the life changing thoughts they have been afraid to share. If you’re that quiet person and feel you don’t have the confidence to speak up get help to overcome it. Hypnotherapy can help to raise your confidence and self esteem. You may not realise it but many top individuals still have underlying confidence issues. They’ve just learnt how to override it with their conscious mind. Wouldn’t it be an amazing if you could feel confident enough to stand up and say, “This is how I’d do it”. Who knows where or what you might end up doing! If you would like help with confidence or self-esteem, give me a call Becky 07801 941949 Becky@beckywells.com www.BeckyWells.com |
AuthorBecky lives in West Sussex, UK and is a Therapist using hypnosis, Psy-TaP, Kinetic Shift and Mindscaping. Please feel free to explore the website to learn more about her. Archives
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