Do you sit reading fairy tales to your children, or remember childhood, tales of princesses, knights and happy ever afters?
Life really is like a fairy tale - we just forget to see it that way sometimes. How? Well let’s take that story of the Princess and her ‘evil’ stepmother and how the Princess was banished to the forest to be executed.
So the Princess’s life started off happily, playing in the castle without a care in the world, surrounded by people she loved, feeling safe and secure.
Life events, such as the loss of her mother, meant her life was turned upside down. Not only losing someone she dearly loved but also feeling like an outsider in her own place of safety.
Fast forward a few years and jealousy from her stepmother meant the princess was outcast from the castle.
Did this make the Princess bitter and angry? No. She adapted to her new role, not judging others (like the Dwarves) for their size, attitudes or life choices.
Eventually she did meet her Princess Charming just by being herself.
If we look back and think about most fairy tales we only remember the good parts. The Princess, the friendships she made. But if you look at almost any fairy tale, the main character had to overcome a lot of adversity to get there.
Isn’t it about time you took control of your own fairy tale? Not blaming others for the last chapter but realising you really can make your fairy tale have its own happy ending?
If you need help writing that next chapter in your book, why not consider hypnotherapy? Think of hypnotherapy as a perfect pair of reading glasses that helps you to see the pages for what they really are, just a story where you really do have control of having that…
‘Happy ever after’.
Scientist says we are only born with a fear of loud noises and a fear of falling. All other fears are learnt behaviours.
In my work as a hypnotherapist, I often work with individuals who have fears through a learnt behaviour. The trigger doesn’t always have to be a physical experience. An example of this is the client that comes to me with the ‘What if’ or ‘I can’t because’ or the parent saying to the child ‘this happened to my friend’. The seed is then sown.
With it being bonfire night there were a lot of loud fireworks going off. I discovered that my own year old dog had a fear of them. I do not know how, as I have only had her eight months.
Initially on the first night, I think we probably heightened her fear by making a lot of fuss. Basically praising and therefore heightening her negative awareness of the noises.
So what did I do? I encouraged her to relax in the situation. No I didn’t give her hypnotherapy. We used a plug in diffuser and a jacket called a thunder jacket (reminded me of the hug in mug advert).
When working with a client I find the art of relaxation gets bypassed and the ‘fight or flight’ controlled by our brains has kicked in before it actually needs to. There must be a lot of prehistoric mammals (otherwise known as memories) out there chasing us.
Working with my clients I know in heart that I cannot undo the past. What I work with them on is making ‘the now’ a moment they can control. A client recently came to me for a fear of loud noises, bad weather etc. I recently received a text from them telling me they’d heard a clap of thunder and jumped like any of us would, but that was all and had stayed perfectly calm after.
I recently watched a fantastic video on UPWorthy about Happiness and being in the moment. Make 10 mins to watch it, it’s an amazing video. I love the little girl telling the story about standing at a door and then using her imagination to describe what may behind.
How about closing your eyes right now and imagining opening that door. What colour door is it? s it a cool metal handle or just one you push open? I wonder where you’ve gone to? Whilst you're there really experience what’s behind it. If it’s outside feel the touch of nature. Wind, sun, water. If you’re in a room look around at the old photos, your favourite comfy chair. Who knows what’s in that room? Even allow your mind to subconsciously pick up and touch objects.
Well done you just experienced self hypnosis.
Take 10 mins after reading this to watch this great little YouTube video. I think you’ll enjoy it. http://www.upworthy.com/clear-your-next-10-minutes-because-this-video-could-change-how-happy-you-are-with-your-entire-week.
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The school holidays have only just begun and the kids are already running out of exciting things to do!
Now some of you may know I was brought up in a small town called Crawley. My youth was spent playing in the local woods; climbing trees, playing hide and seek and generally enjoying myself without the aid of a computer console.
What do I think this helped with as an adult? Well the greatest dreams were created in those times about my future. That local forest became my Narnia. As I stepped into the entrance of the park nothing else really mattered.
We’d find trees to swing from and like elves from the forest other children would join in with the fun and games. We never thought about being bored, we didn’t have time. We were busy chasing away the fire breathing dragons or hiding from the invisible witch that lived down the black alley.
Children these days are not always allowed to set their imagination free. As a hypnotherapist the daydream is a powerful tool. During a hypnotherapy session a client is encouraged into a relaxed daydream type state. Whilst relaxed the therapist encourages them to change how they view certain feelings or events in their life to a more positive way.
So if you’re off with your kids this school holiday, why not relive your childhood? Show your kids how a forest such as Tilgate Park (http://www.crawley.gov.uk/pw/Leisure_and_Culture/Tilgate_Park/index.htm) in Crawley can be the place where their character is formed and their sense of independence is encouraged. And if you slay a few of your own dragons whilst you’re there, even better.
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How important do you think water is?
We can live without food for more than a month, but did you know no one can stay alive for more than about a week without water. I think that tells you just how important it is. All living things need water for their bodies to function. When you take in food, water helps to dissolve it and, along with certain chemicals in your body, it turns this food into energy for you to grow. These chemicals can work only in water. Water carried waste material out of your body as well.
We lose water as you breathe and sweat. According to scientific research we are made up of around 65% water.
How many times have you suddenly realised how thirsty you are, this is one of our bodies line of defences in warning up to drink. Drinking a glass of water 20 mins before your dinner can help us to eat less and feel fuller.
Studies have found that some teas may help with cancer, heart disease, and diabetes; encourage weight loss; lower cholesterol; and bring about mental alertness.
What about teas, coffee and juices etc. I am lucky enough to have an amazing tea room called ‘fork to feast’ situated in Miss Mabel's Magnificent Emporium in Burgess Hill. You can visit their website at http://www.forktofeast.co.uk/index.php or follow them on twitter @forktofeast. Great little tea room to catch up with friends whilst refreshing your body. What more of an excuse do you need?
Why not book yourself in to 'a weight off your mind' interactive evening seminar being held on 24th September at the Chequer Mead in East Grinstead. Tickets will be available from the Chequer Mead Box office Box Office: 01342 302000 E-mail: email@example.com or by contacting me directly.
If you would like to know more about healthy eating and how changing your mind about food can help you lose weight. Drop me a email firstname.lastname@example.org or give me a call on 07801 941949
So grab your H20, take a sip, remember that without re-hydrating yourself regularly your body will suffer. I’m off to grab myself a drink, tomorrow I’ll be looking into ‘Pick your own’ farms.
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Last year it was 21 degrees, we’ll be lucky if we see 3 degrees later this evening. Definitely not time to put those winter woollies away yet. Whilst out for a walk today with hat, scarf, coat and thermals, I was looking around as I walk at all the wild plants in suspension.
Bluebells desperately holding onto their blooms and buds on trees staying tightly closed. Do we hold onto things too long sometimes? How many times have you held onto a thought and allowed it to eat into you for way too long?
Hypnotherapy can help to unlock those damaged trails of thought patterns and help to create new pathways and fresh outlooks on the walk of life.
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Have you ever stood in the kitchen, opened up the cupboards and looked at the tins, packets, jars, bottles and other ingredients on the shelves?
I relate this to helping my clients look inside their subconscious cupboard. By taking some of the ingredients out one by one and examining the packaging, we can check their “use by” dates to see which need discarding.
The ingredients that are left are then manipulated to create a perfect dish for my client’s life.
You could call it life a la carte.
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Do you get up in the morning and look forward to the day ahead or do you get up and dread what the day is going to bring?
I used to be one of those people who did exactly that. I’d get up in the morning, head up to the city, arrive an hour and a half later and walk in a zombie like fashion to my desk. Sit there entering data and wondering how everyone had been doing the same thing for years.
So I did something about it, I retrained. I was also fairly shy, which people that know me now may not believe. So not only did I have to retrain my skills but also I had to retrain me. I had to overcome a fear of standing up and being heard, which to me was something I thought I’d never have the courage to do.
I used various therapies including hypnotherapy, to build up my self-confidence, self-belief and self-esteem. I guess in psychological terms they would probably describe me as an introvert with an extrovert shell.
I will always have that piece of my past in my mind, the shy individual who wouldn’t say ‘boo to a goose’ as they say (still not keen on geese) but I use this to boost how far I’ve come. I look in the mirror and see that shy person sitting there in the past and show them just how far they’ve come and watch them take a deep breath and say “I can go anywhere I want, can’t I, I just need to believe in me”.
So find that mirror, look at how much that person looking back has achieved. If you want to achieve even more or need help with a specific issue, give me a call and enjoy the snow - if it appears tomorrow. Go build snowmen, make a snow angel and have a snowball fight with family or friends.
Becky (chief snowball builder)
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There can’t be many Brits who aren’t proud of what’s happened in the last two weeks!
I have held my breath, shed tears of joy and sadness and smiled so much I think I could have lit up a Stadium.
Well how to top that, we are all wondering now?
Let’s allow that feeling to spill up over the top of the stadium and engulf the whole UK. We proved that working together is easy. Foreigners to our shores have commented on the friendliness and ease of their visit to this great Isle.
So how can I follow that!
My plan for the year is to make a difference, if I make a positive difference to just one person’s life; I will have succeeded. If I can help more, then everyone I see is just as important as the first.
What’s planned for this week? Firstly just remembering to take a breath and enjoy breathing in the pride of the nation.
These individuals we’ve watched jump, swim, run and shoot are just like YOU or I! They have trained their bodies and minds to overcome obstacles and setbacks by using these challenges to fuel their motivation to succeed.
Changing yourself from the inside may not always be easy without a guiding hand.
Hypnotherapy acts as that guiding hand, it reminds you, you’ve done it before and you can do it again. It helps you to grab that favourite memory you’d forgotten about from your past and helps you put it in your pocket for a rainy day.
So that’s what I’ve got planned for the week. I’m going to help some individuals find that forgotten memory and store it for that rainy day in the future.
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I am thinking of investing in a canoe to get between clients if the rain continues. What a start to summer (or glummer) as I heard it called.
Have you ever wondered what hypnotherapy can be used for? I would ask that the other way round. What can't it be used for?
Weight loss is one of the areas hypnotherapy can complement and enhance other forms of training such as personal training, pilates and yoga. It gets to the the heart of the matter and can help to change years of bad habits, replacing them with positive ones. I have recently been working with several clients who, by changing their lifestyle and eating habits, lost between 10 and 17 pounds over an eight week period.
Confidence and self esteem is another area where people seem to bloom steadily as the sessions progress. For me the reward of seeing someone grow is so motivational and inspires me a little bit more every time.
What's planned for this week? Glamour magazine team have taken the Royal Great Parks Half Marathon challenge by the horns and are taking their training shoes all round the world. They took their Asics trainers to Australia on a photo shoot. There's dedication for you!
Tuesday they are training in Berkeley Square with myself and Vicky from Matt Roberts 'Training with You'. It's going fantastically well. They've been using muscles in their bodies they didn't even know they had.
I'm off to Harley Street to see clients on Thursday. Then topping the week off with a trip to Longines Royal International Horse Show at Hickstead. I went last year for the first time and was so impressed by the events and exhibitors that I am looking forward to this year even more.
In the British tradition I am going whatever the weather. That's why 'Hunters' were invented.
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What a great start to my new company! Appointments have been keeping me very busy, spreading my time between London and Sussex. Last Thursday I went up to a ‘Women in Business’ networking meeting with Jon Roberts, a speaker from Matt Roberts Personal Training. What a fantastic motivational talk.
I picked up the keys to my Harley Street consulting room last Thursday, so appointments will now be available there on a Thursday afternoon.
The training with Team Glamour from Glamour magazine is going fantastically well. They are such highly motivated people who work so well together. They are training for the Great Parks run in London in October and are raising money for MIND. You can follow their training blog on http://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/love-sex-relationships/health-fitness/2012/team-glamour-running-blog#!image-number=1and see what training myself and Vicky from the Matt Roberts ‘Training with You’ team have been putting them through.
My Matt Roberts ‘Training With You’ ladies in Mid Sussex are also doing amazingly well with their sessions. They have been going for four weeks now and have lost almost 16 kilograms between them already (almost 30 bags of sugar)! They have lost 25cms around their waist and 12.5cms round their hips between them. Keep up the great work ladies.
So what’s planned for next week? Well lots more hypnotherapy and sports therapy clients are booked in but I have given myself the day off for my birthday on Wednesday 11th (21st birthday again for the 17th time)!
Monday at 9am I’ll be over in East Grinstead on the Meridian 107 FM Breakfast radio show I sponsor with Mark Dodson, and then off for my coffee at Mr Andre’s coffee shop. I’ve missed them whilst I’ve been so busy the last few weeks.
On Tuesday evening, why not come and watch us train the Glamour Team in Berkeley Square. Fingers crossed the rain stays
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