F is for finding lost items.
How many times have you lost something and wondered where you’ve put it? If you’re like me, many times. In fact just today I bought a paper and five minutes later I couldn’t find it.
Turned out I’d left it on the counter at the shop I’d bought it from.
Have you lost something important and cannot find it? One of my clients recently lost, well misplaced, a family heirloom. After three months of searching, they decided to try hypnotherapy. Just one session and her subconscious went back to a place she’d looked many times. It wasn’t even hidden.
So if the sock monster has extend his duties to hiding more important items, give me a buzz. I might be able to get the location out of him.
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F is for Fear
What about fear? Is a fear or phobia holding you back?
How many things can you imagine doing if that fear or phobia didn’t stop you.
Some of the fears I’ve worked with ...
How much easier would life be if that fear wasn’t holding you back? Take a moment to sit back and say ‘that fear of ….’ Is no longer there. ‘Now I can…’ That’s where I want to help, help you on the way to wherever you want to go.
If fear is stopping you moving forwards, learn to stand up to fear and climb to new heights.
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Have you ever made yourself sick because you feel uncomfortably full?
Worry that you’ve lost control over how much food you eat?
Does that image you see in the mirror tell you you're overweight, when others around comment on how little you weigh?
Does the thought of food dominate your life and lifestyle?
Do you hide your feelings about food to those around you?
Many people find a combination of therapies can help for eating disorders.
Why is hypnotherapy one of those to consider?
Importantly I would also advise you to seek help from a medical professional, such as your GP.
It’s a journey to take control of those habits around food and thoughts around your own self. Giving you that healthy you back in the process by replacing negative, damaging thoughts with positive empowering ones.
As Lao Tzu once said. ‘Every great journey begins with that single step’.
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Depression can feel like the loneliest place in the world. You can be in a room full of people, hiding behind a mask of smiles and laughter, but inside feeling like a person trapped on a desert island not knowing which way to escape.
Do you try and pretend it's not there or that it is not a serious condition?
Do you find you’re always tired? It can be very debilitating, making everyday tasks like climbing your own Everest.
Sometimes it's just about finding someone to listen. Not only listening but listening without judgement. Someone who doesn’t see crying or being emotional as a weakness.
I’m guessing you would like nothing better than to feel happy again and be yourself.
Never call that problem stupid or tell everyone that it is nothing to worry about.
For those who think someone they know is showing these symptoms….
The important thing is to be there. Be genuine, don’t lie to them. Don’t tell them things and not really mean them. A hug or simple ‘I’m here for you, if that’s okay’. Tell them how much you value their friendship and that you care about their life. That conversation could quite literally save their life. I know. I have spoken to many at this point over the years.
Depression can make people feel worthless and not needed. Be there to reassure that person that they really matter and that you want to help.
As a hypnotherapist the most important initial job I can do is listen and bring a sense of relaxation back to that person. For them it’s probably felt like they’ve been a coiled spring waiting to break for way too long.
It’s a journey… but it’s a journey back to discovering the real you again.
We all live in a world where we are told what to do, whether consciously or subconsciously, by other people. It can be our spouse or our employer or even the adverts we watch on TV. These instructions even get internalised after a while so we just follow them without being asked.
When will it be time to take back those controls and say ‘no’?
Right now I say.
A see a lot of clients who, behind that shield they have put up to protect them, have dreams, ambitions and visions that would change the world for the better. If only they’d learn how to break down that barrier in front of them.
What who you do if you had all that confidence? Start a business? Stand up to the bullies around you? What is stopping you from doing it right now?
Take a look in the mirror. Who do you see staring back at you? Imagine for a moment that this person wasn’t you but someone else. Maybe a friend. What advice would you give them about their dreams and ambitions? I suspect you’d encourage them to go for it.
Having a higher level of confidence can have great benefits in all areas of your life, from relationships, career and even your own state of mind. It give you the faith to stand up and be that unique individual that you are.
Confidence is a skill that can be developed. It has no boundaries when it comes to age, religion or gender. As your confidence grows you’ll also notice your body posture becomes more upright. Strange but true. Standing tall when walking down the street, smiling more.
Hypnotherapy can help you reach that goal by first teaching you how to relax.
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We all hate bullying but how often do you realise that you bully yourself?
Have you ever been asked to do something and that little inner voice says you’re not good enough? I have.
For years I told myself I couldn’t be as good as all the others in my profession. I tried to change myself into them like a chameleon and in the process, I was the victim of bullying too. In my first job, when I was 16 years old, a manager bullied me and I didn’t stand up to him. It made me to become even quieter than I was. It caused me to never get promotion. The thought of three interviewers staring at me terrified me. Not a surprise really that I never got promotion, even though I was amazing at my job.
So how can we learn to overcome those bullies including the ones within?
Now I have set those bullies free, I have no intention of inviting them back in. I know it’s a journey and along the way they’ll try to get in through any slight crack in the door but what I do know is...
... I am me and love me for being me, I can politely close that door and watch the bullies walk away.
The next blog is all about C for confidence.
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My page on addictions
I’m not an addict, some might say. But most of us at some point in our lives become addicted to something. How many times do you flick open your Facebook to check for a comment or see what your friends are doing?
Addiction includes not only those key addictions from the past - drugs, alcohol or smoking. It comes in many disguises now, sneaking inside and taking hold of those usually organised thoughts.
Let’s look at a few of the modern day addictions we face.
When clients come to see me for addiction, I encourage them to look at all the aspects of their life they already have control over. It may be family life, work, who knows. I take the skills they use to manage these life events and encourage their subconscious to do exactly the same with their addiction.
You will longer be dictated to by a potentially deadly habit or addiction.
Here is Sarah from Brighton’s story:
Sarah worked in the health industry and already had a personal trainer to help with her fitness levels. She found the only thing she still couldn’t control was her chocolate addiction and sugar craving, so we looked at her daily routine.
She didn’t have breakfast but had a protein shake instead. In this way she thought she had no sugar except for her morning tea! But look at the back of those packets. They may not have sugar listed but most will have sweeteners. And sweeteners help train the brain to like sweetness.
She’d cut out all carbs because that’s what she’d been advised to do. But complex carbohydrates help power our bodies throughout the day by slowly releasing their energy.
Drinking sufficient water was also a hit or miss affair with her.
So her body was being woken up with a sugar fix and then deprived of a fuel source to maintain itself and deprived of a regular fluid intake to wash the toxins away.
Over time she had developed a sugar addiction, which depleted her energy levels and put her at risk of diabetes, despite her fitness training.
What did we do?
In just one session we took hold of that sugar demon and sent it on its way, encouraging positive food habits using hypnosis. Sarah now starts the day with breakfast. She has healthy snacks already prepared to eat during the day and is amazed how much better she feels through drinking more water.
We reinforced the session with a follow up session but now sugar has lost its control over her daily routines and she has more energy now than before.
Fuel yourself for life not just for a quick fix.
We all have strengths, weaknesses and skills that we use in everyday situations. It's time to learn how you can unlock these skills.
I was always the quiet one, at school I’d get on with my work, pretty much keeping myself to myself. In my first job, I tried to speak out once and suffered bullying by a senior member of staff, choosing to keep quiet and not tell anyone.
I never got promotion because I became afraid to speak out; I perceived it as my weakness, my Achilles heel. So what changed?
I learnt that my perceived weaknesses were actually my strengths.
The quiet shy person actually observes a lot more than most. When I sit quietly in the corner I am observing the body language, the energy of the individual as well as the words.
It was this that made me decide to become a hypnotherapist. Often when an individual comes to see me there is a barrage of underlying beliefs and behaviours triggering the reason for their visit.
I make it my mission to empower as many people who walk through the door to my office as I can. I do not try to control them. What I do is help them to show fear the door and realise that anxiety is ok, as long as they’re in control of it.
A great example is one of mine. I could never have imagined standing on stage talking to a crowd of people. Yet three years ago, I hired an auditorium and spoke to an audience about weight loss for over two hours.
A few years ago the thought of this would have sent me running, my voice would have speeded up to almost break the sound barrier and I would have glowed like a tomato from the head down.
How did I learn to control it? My breath. I learnt how to slow it down and as I did, the redness, my speeded up voice and my anxiety disappeared. I also realised I was actually enjoying myself. I was making jokes and the audience were laughing back.
If you had to list your strengths, what would they be?
Mine would be:
Great listener with my eyes, ears and awareness.
Compassion. I am a helper but I also learnt not to be a doormat.
Quirkiness. I am liable to dance in the rain, sing out of key, and make a joke or two.
Many years ago, I would have seen the quietness as a hindrance but now I see it as a super-power, allowing me to see beyond what others see.
My compassion also used to feel like a burden around my neck. Now it feels like wings that let me to take my message to the highest heights.
And my quirkiness? For many years it was like a hidden treasure, only seen by a chosen few close friends. Now I stand on mountain tops, singing songs and blowing my trumpet loudly.
Make a list of things that you feel have been holding you back.
On the other side of the page make a list of how you can change them to make then your uniqueness.
Because that’s exactly what I did and so can you.
If you need some more help, look at my page on Hypnotherapy for Self-Belief.
Becky lives in West Sussex, UK and is a Therapist using hypnosis, Psy-TaP, Kinetic Shift and Mindscaping. Please feel free to explore the website to learn more about her.