 After seeing a couple of clients today, it reminded me why I think I am good at what I do. With all my clients, whether they are hypnotherapy, Personal Training or sports massage clients, I try to put myself in their shoes, so to speak.
No I don’t have some strange foot fetish before you start to wonder, I mean in the metaphorical sense.
Let’s take, for example, a highly skilled executive that comes to see me. When I first met him he came across as bold, confident and sometimes quite abrupt.
What I might find underneath is an unconfident introvert inside an extrovert shell.
What I try to do with my skills is unravel the layers of protection that have been built up, a bit like an onion with its outer layer thickened by the environment.
I help take the layers off one by one until I reach the centre, then, and almost as important, I help them to use those layers to make something even better.
So if you would like a hand unpeeling that onion, I have the utensils to give you a hand. I’ll even give you a tissue if it makes your eyes water. As we know teardrops are made of 1% water
 What did you want to be when you were younger?
Did you have ambitions to be an astronaut or the next member of the Beatles, Bros or the Spice Girls?
I always wanted to be in the Police but, due to a back injury, that never happened.
If I could have had any job in the world I would probably have chosen to be a vet working with wild exotic animals, or a forensic pathologist. Both very different jobs you may think. The connection between them is about solving a mystery through facts and links because you cannot ask the subject any questions.
I would say I have a good intuition for underlying problems. Most of the massage clients I treat know I have probably already figured out where to massage before they’ve told me the sore spot. And I’ve probably found several other places as well.
It’s the same with hypnotherapy and counselling skills. It’s about picking up on those facts and feelings between the words, which usually helps me to solve problems.
So if you didn’t get to do your dream job there is often an opportunity to get involved as a volunteer. If you need a boost to make that phone call or write that email, you only have to book in for a session with me to make that start.
Who knows? The next time you look at my blog, you may be looking back saying ‘I did it’. Shut your eyes now and just imagine yourself doing whatever it is you’d like to do, just for 5 minutes.
Have a great week.
Becky
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 I love the fact that when I am not working I have a real variety of interests to keep me entertained. I love to work and learn about people, I guess I am a real people watcher, constantly observing the world.
So when the chance came up to learn how to make a digital camera act more like the old film cameras I jumped at it. I am lucky I have a friend who is the most amazing photographer and has worked with a number of famous individuals. She has agreed to teach me. Have a look at her photography on her website www.merrymichau.com
So why can photography help me in my work? To me it’s like putting the world on freeze frame in front of you and capturing the emotions. You can look into the eyes (they say they are portals to the souls) and see that real person staring back.
Watch this space for my future attempts; I fear I may have a lot of black screens before I start posting pictures.
Have a hobby that you’d like to take up but maybe not the fitness, confidence or an injury that is preventing you starting?
Give me a call to see how I can help.
Becky
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 Not so long a go I visited a friend of mine who is a medium, who told me about some changes that would happen in my life. Now some of you may not believe in mediums. I am open to all experiences and it’s probably why I’ve ended up doing such amazing things in my life.
I was looking at my bucket list today and realised that I have almost ticked everything off my list, so I’ll need to start a new one soon.
So what’s left on my list? I’ve still got to buy my converted barn, so I think I may have to work 24:7 (or smartly) to achieve that by the end of 2013, or I need to find a rich husband (laughs out loud). Funnily enough I feel the first one is more likely, as I look in the mirror at this rather independent individual known as myself. Although I am still looking for that pint sized blonde snowboarder, but that’s another story.
Have you got goals or a bucket list but not the self-confidence to go out and do them?
Why not give me a call? Hypnotherapy may be life changing for you. It certainly was for me.
Becky
www.BeckyWells.com
07801 941949
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 Today I went back to my fitness roots as I had booked myself on a group fitness-training course. If I had been told before that I could rest as much as I need I’d never have believed you could run a class like this and still feel like you’ve had the best workout ever.
So what is this course? It was called ‘Metabolic effect’ training. To put it in a nutshell it focuses on changing the fat-burning hormonal response to exercise and diet. It does this by changing hormones. Rather than simply eating less or exercising more, the body naturally regulates fat burning, appetite, and mood so that motivation for exercise is enhanced while cravings for food are reduced.
So how did I survive a whole day of exercise? Well I am pretty sure every magazine editor and team I’ve ever worked with, and all the Personal Training clients I have ever put through mountain climbers, squats and lunges, would be pleased to learn that I have done a few hundred of them today.
It got to the point towards the end of the day when I was wondering if I could extend the rest time until the following Sunday.
So watch out friends, I will be looking for willing volunteers to test this out on soon. So if you see me coming you might want to hide!
Anyway I’m off to find a box or two of radox to soak in, as I have a feeling I may need a Zimmer frame to move tomorrow.
To be continued ….
Becky
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 Such a small word, but it can make a huge difference to how you go about your daily life. For example “if I go out and talk to that chairman of the local women’s group, I may create a whole new network of links”. In comparison to “When I go and see the Chairman, I will form new networks”.
The self-doubting “if” is like a little nagging gremlin on your shoulder saying ‘what if they don’t like me; what if I can’t answer the questions they throw at me?’.
I always go with the ”when”. ‘When’ I go to that meeting I know that I have a great foundation of knowledge from inspirational sources. I do not know everything and I know I am not expected to. I like my head to be small enough to still fit through a doorway. I also go there expecting to absorb more information from those I meet to make me an even better therapist.
In the career I have chosen I always expect to learn, and I don’t mean from textbooks or courses.
Take time to observe the people you work with, my job is never going to be 9-5 and to be honest. I’d have no idea what to do with my spare time if that was the case.
Be a listener… be a ‘When’ person… not an ‘if’ person.
I look forward to bumping into you ‘When’ our paths cross because I know they will.
Becky
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 I always feel like one of the ants in 'Bug’s Life' when I head up to Central London like I did today. We all pile out of the train, follow a set route down the platform, back down another set of steps, down the escalators and into a shuttle which sees us doing this all in reverse.
If your tube stop is suddenly closed, you see people’s anxiety levels rise before they head off on another, yet untested, route.
A bit like life really? We go to school until 16 or 18, then maybe higher education or straight into work. How can most of us know, when we choose our life’s destiny at 16, what we really want to do? Some may, but a lot of people I speak to say “I trained and worked in this job for 20 years or more”. 'Are you happy' will be my next question? 'No' is quite frequently the answer.
Now in 'Bugs Life', he dares to live his dream and head off to the unknown. Now I am not saying give up safety or security. What I am saying is go and explore other options. Maybe you’re that person with low self esteem that wants to do a job that requires you to stand up and be heard or wants to lose weight to take up that dream hobby or holiday location. Hypnotherapy allows you, in a safe and secure environment, to explore what your inner self is really like, and unlocks newfound exciting parts of you, that have been subdued by your conscious mind. You will probably find, like most of my clients, they have some great conversations with yourself under hypnosis.
So if you want a hand stepping of the treadmill of life, even if you use it just as form of relaxation from your everyday life, call me. You never know, you might find like many, that you open yourself up to a whole new career, I did.
Take a leaf out of Flik’s book from Bug’s life. Who knows, the world may discover it’s next Picasso, Hugh Grant or Raymond Blanc just by you allowing it a glimpse into the real you.
Becky
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You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the only one who'll decide where you'll go.
~ Dr. Seuss
 I was listening to the local radio station this morning and they were talking about how, as we get older, we lose that childhood magic that encourages us to go out rollerskating, playing hide and seek in the local woods and leap frogging over the bollards.
The radio station said ‘we all feel as we get old we need to grow up’. Someone forgot to tell me. Some of my friends see me as a 21st century Peter Pan. Does that bother me? No. I’m pleased. I hope that having magic in my life gives people a sprinkle of fairy dust to go and do the same.
I went out rollerskating the other day with a friend and felt the same excitement that I did 20 years ago. If my friends’ kids ask me to play hide and seek, I am the first to climb in the washing basket to hide.
That Peter Pan spirit is what has lead me on my amazing journey. How many of you have wished upon that second star to the right? I wished, I flew and I’ve been there and done that and I’ll probably head back to Neverland several times this year taking a few friends along the way.
So if you want to go a round of ‘follow my leader’ with me, let me unlock your inner child. Mine is an Elf and a cheeky one at that.
So grab my hand, a quick sprinkle of Tinkerbell’s dust, and we’ll be off.
Becky
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“The moment you doubt whether you can fly,
you cease for ever to be able to do it.”
~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan
 I was sitting watching the TV this evening and was struck by the number of shows that put pressure on the contestants to just go one more round further. ‘Exploiting people’s emotions’ I hear some of you say! ‘Isn’t that just like life’, I hear others say.
It got me thinking about how many times in life we take these types of risk anyway. A lot of the time I would guess!
How many times have you bought something unseen from the Internet because the offer seems so good, or maybe you’ve changed careers from a well-paid job to a voluntary or low income job?
Was it a risk? Maybe? Yes? Probably? But does this stop you?
I decided several years ago that life is worth living to its fullest. When I was 18 I had major surgery on my back, which prevented me from doing what I thought was my dream job.
Once I’d got myself back to full fitness, both physically and mentally, I realised I could do anything I like, if I put my mind to it.
I also chose to resign from a well-paid government job and take up a job that paid half what I was getting. Now after several years, I have the most amazing career and I get to do something I love, helping others.
Ten to fifteen years ago therapy was seen as something strange and maybe to some it still is. Personally I would never be afraid of going to see a therapist if I had worries. In fact the hypnotherapy register I belong to actively encourages its members to have regular sessions with other therapists.
If you’re sitting there juggling two metaphorical boxes in front of you, why not give me a call to see if I can help you.
Becky
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07801 941949
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 So they say we can link ourselves to everyone in the world by a maximum of six degrees of separation? Well let’s try it. How can I be linked to Tom Cruise? I have done some work as Associate Personal Trainer for Matt Roberts. Matt Roberts has trained Mel C, Mel C is friends and part of the same girl group as Victoria Beckham. Victoria Beckham is married to David Beckham who is good friends with Tom Cruise. Well would have thought it he never calls or phones when we are linked so closely (laughs out loud)
It just shows you also what a small world it really is and how friendship can be shared all around the world without a second thought. Do you ever take the time to sit and talk to your friends or are you someone who unloads everything on them?
Some people lack the confidence to tell their story, why not allow the quietest person in the group to lead the conversation one day. You may be surprised at the life changing thoughts they have been afraid to share.
If you’re that quiet person and feel you don’t have the confidence to speak up get help to overcome it. Hypnotherapy can help to raise your confidence and self esteem. You may not realise it but many top individuals still have underlying confidence issues. They’ve just learnt how to override it with their conscious mind.
Wouldn’t it be an amazing if you could feel confident enough to stand up and say, “This is how I’d do it”.
Who knows where or what you might end up doing!
If you would like help with confidence or self-esteem, give me a call
Becky
07801 941949
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